How has your own childhood impacted the way you view the life and function of a family?
November 3, 2017, 5:00 AM

May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each other and for everyone else, just as ours does for you. May He strengthen your hearts so that you will be blameless and holy in the presence of our God and Father when our Lord Jesus comes with all His holy ones. 1 Thessalonians 3:12-13


Game night is a time I always look forward to spending with my family. I love playing board games and even more, I love that my kids still want to hang out with me. We keep the popcorn popping and play classics like Monopoly, Clue, and Trouble. Everyone is laughing and cheering until someone takes a turn and we hear, “That’s not how you play the game.” Now we have to put the game on hold to read over the rules. Once the rules are clarified, we can continue playing our friendly game, well, after the person who had the rule right in the first place does a dance while shouting, “Told ya so. Told ya so,” which leaves the other family member hurt and embarrassed. It feels good to be right, but not at the expense of someone else’s heart getting broken.


Pride demands self-gratification where humility lays down its rights entirely. There are several definitions for the word pride, but one that caught my eye read: a feeling of being better than others. You see it’s when we are in the company of others that our humility is truly tested. I’ve witnessed families torn apart over a lack of humility. Refusing to apologize, not admitting when one is wrong, these actions, or lack of, hardens the heart. A family should be a safe place to form a good heart. I say that keeping in mind that not all of us view family as a ‘safe place’. I come from a family that has experienced many brokenesses and I know the heartache that were causes. The truth is there are no perfect families because there are no perfect people.  However, I believe God desires the life of the family to transform us more into the image of Christ.


I believe He can take my broken past and redeem it through my own family by how I choose to behave and act. Will I lay my rights aside for something bigger than myself? Will I allow God to use the people I’m around the most to conform me more into His likeness?  Like it or not, my family is who I’m with the most. They see the real me who is smiling and happy to be at church on Sunday, and the real me, who an hour before, was screaming at everyone to hurry up and get ready. They love me with all my flaws which makes me want to be a better husband and father. They help me grow in areas I may have never known I am weak. And they teach me about grace in that I need to not only extend it, but also receive it. How do you respond when a family member has offended you? Are you quick to forgive?  How has your own childhood impacted the way you view the life and function of a family?


This is my Prayer: Father God, help me love others as You love me.   Lord keep my heart soft so I may be open to what it is You are doing in me through those who are closest to me.  Jesus help me to trust that You, my redeemer, heal all wounds, past, present, and future using all things for Your glory. In Your name Jesus I pray, Amen.