Is there one fear that tends to dominate your thought life lately?
July 16, 2017, 5:00 AM

Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 1 JOHN 4:18


As I write this I have just finish 2 camp and still have one next week.  Sponsoring at these camps and sharing Christ’s love with all these kids has been an amazing experience as always. But it has spurred at one of my biggest fears which revolve around my parenting skills. I am constantly anxious about how we can teach our children the facts of life without them falling victim to the culture’s views on sex, dating and marriage.  My anxieties can easily become fear.  The thing about fear is that it forces us to disallow God to be God, because we rely on self instead of Him. This means we need to stop thinking we’re in control, and start really believing in God and relying on Him.


There are there a few things we need to do in order to turn our fear over to God:

1. Be real with ourselves. I messed up God’s plan for intimacy very early in life. What if our children make the same mistakes we made? That’s where my fears come from; I am projecting my own regrets onto my children’s future.

2. Understand the difference between caution and fear. Caution is wise movement; fear is stagnant. If we choose fear around this topic by overly sheltering our children, they won’t have the information they need to take care of themselves. Instead we need to move forward by explaining God’s heart for these areas of their lives.

3.Give God all of ourselves. God wants 100% of us because He gave all of Himself to us through Jesus. I take that to mean God wants my wife and I to always seek Him first and if we do, He will give us the words and examples to share with our children about His plan for sex, dating and marriage. And just like our relationship with Him, it’s not going to be a one-time discussion. It’s too important for that.

4.Be willing to stand in truth. Culture flies in the face of God’s plan for us. I can’t control my children’s decisions, but I can give them God’s blueprint, trust them to make good choices, and know God’s grace covers all OUR mistakes. All of mine and all of theirs.


So I can I ask you a few questions?  Is there one fear that tends to dominate your thought life lately? Do you have any reason to believe God isn’t interested in helping you in this area? What would it look like to trust Him to cast out this fear?


This is my Prayer: Father God, thank You for Your perfect love, demonstrated through Christ’s death on our behalf. Jesus help me to abide in You and give You every concern, large and small. Lord I know it’s a fallen world, teach me to let the light of Your Word pierce the darkness and cast out my fears , for Your glory, and for others to see there is a better way. In Jesus name, Amen.