What secrets do you keep to hide your insecurities?
August 14, 2017, 5:00 AM

Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. PROVERBS 29:25

Olly Olly Oxen Free! This expression is familiar to anyone who has spent anytime on a playground. It is used in children’s games to signal that the game is over. Seeing a group of children play hide and seek is charming. However, watching grown men and woman still playing this game is nothing but depressing. The sad truth is that there are some of us who are still hiding behind that bush waiting for someone, anyone, to make that call: Olly, Olly, Oxen Free!


The game is the same, we’ve just come up with different hiding places and we have perfected the craft of disappearing. True spiritual friendships will never take place if we remain hidden behind our jobs, fake appearances, social status, or pat Christian answers. The game of hide and seek will continue on from sun up to sun down. Somebody has to have the courage to make the call: Olly, Olly, Oxen Free! It only takes one person who is willing to lay down their agenda for others to realize they can come out of hiding.  There is no longer the pressure to hide and deal with shame, struggles and sin on your own.


Most friendships don’t get to the point where vulnerability and transparency take root.  We’re too afraid of abandoning our pride or acknowledging our fear of being known. Instead, we settle for projecting an image and keeping people at a distance. We construct walls and largely go at it alone. This isolation goes against our hard wiring as humans. We were made to connect with one another. The critical component of connection is vulnerability. Researcher Brene Brown has devoted the past decade to the study of human interactions and the power of human connections. From her research, she concluded, “You can’t connect if you are not seen.”


When we take this academic research and relate it to faith and friendships, we realize that we have to be willing to acknowledge our shame, brokenness, struggles and insecurities to others. We have to possess the courage to admit that we are a work in progress and that God is shaping us into His image.  So, pause for a moment and consider this question: What secrets do you keep to hide your insecurities? The question isn’t whether you have them (we all do); it is how do you conceal them?  This is where the Gospel truly lays the foundation for friendships. Due to the cross and God’s grace, we are free from all those things that push us to hide. Sin, shame and guilt are no more.  


This is my Prayer: Father God, may I not hide my true self from others. Lord instead of masking my weakness, allow me to admit my faults and shortcomings to those who care about me. Jesus help me to reflect Your heart and push others to see You. In Your name, Jesus. Amen.